When should I talk with my child about school shootings?
It is normal for all of us to be fearful of gun violence, especially in the recent days of the school shooting that occurred so close to home. As adults, you may need to start the conversation by saying, “What did you hear?” or “What do you think is going on?” Some children may need time to process violent situations before they are ready to talk. Other children may need to express their feelings through music, journaling, or art. Remember your job as a parent is to support your child and help them feel safe again.
What should I say about gun violence?
Be Honest. Tell your child the truth about the event, but don’t give more details than needed. You can say “There was a school shooting and people got hurt, but it is over now.”
Make sure your child knows you are listening. Don’t dismiss their fears. You should reflect their feelings by saying, “I understand what you are saying.”
Explain events based on your child’s age and maturity.
What else should I know?
Keep an eye on what your child is watching on social media.
Tell your child to speak to an adult if someone seems angry or depressed.
Stick to a routine. Routines helps children feel secure.
Watch for stress. If you notice your child is overwhelmed with stress, you should call your child’s doctor or a mental health provider.
Additional Tips for Students
See something, say something! We are very proud of our students who have come forward to report potential threats.
Please continue to report! Please do not repost or reshare rumors/threats that are seen on social media, text, email, etc. but instead report them to law enforcement or school staff.
There is a difference between reporting and tattling or gossiping. You can provide information that may prevent harm, either directly or anonymously by telling a trusted adult.
Additional Resources
https://www.savethechildren.org/us/charity-stories/how-to-talk-to-children-about-school-shootings
https://kidshealth.org/en/parents/talk-about-guns.html?ref=search
https://www.commonsensemedia.org/articles/how-to-talk-to-kids-about-school-shootings
